The Bee and The Fly, Which One Are You?
Apr 21st, 2010 by AhYap
I really didn’t know books can contain so much knowledge until I read a book called “Why Men Don’t Listen and Why Woman Can’t Read Maps”. That was the 4th year in my uni life.
I saw it on a friends book shelf and borrowed it. I bring it to lecture, sat on the last row and read it… I couldn’t put it off! It is just too interesting and I finish it in 2 days. Then it spark the fire of my reading spree until today. As I understand from that days onwards, 书中自有黄金屋,书中自有颜如玉.[direct translation: books will have gold house, books will have leng lui (pretty girl), not playboy though!]
This is not what I meant!
I read and read and read and read… with so many “gold house” found from books (but unfortunately only one leng lui found) I am very excited and eager to share with people around me… but what seems weird to me is, almost everyone is not interested in all these!!!
I was thinking to myself, “Why these people don’t want to listen? Why these people don’t want to learn?” They all seems very busy with their own life, with their own story… I notice that people refuse to learn and change. And I also notice that people seldom read. So their brain and their thinking are mostly limited to their pass experience (and newspaper maybe).
I have a very good ability on predicting what a man/woman will do/think by looking at their thinking patterns and habits. That means, say given scenario A to Ah Lee, how Ah Lee will respond. I can get it right most of the time. Why? Because everyone has a pattern, a repeated pattern. I don’t have the mystical power to see their future and who exactly they are going to marry, but predicting their relationship and the type of girl they will hook up with is easy. Because, it is not random, it is patterned.
But on the other hand, I have a big difficulty on trying to help them. Even if I see them playing with fire or are near the cliff, I am quite helpless.
And once I managed to realize something, I no longer try to change people. I do blog for people who are willing to read. But I have sworn to myself that I will not actively trying to change/help people. There are many reasons/realizations on that but one of the most interesting reason is the story of the bee and the fly.
What is the difference between a bee and a fly?
The bee will always eat honey and the fly will always eat shit.
You don’t need to teach the bee what to eat, he will just stick to the honey. On the other hand, the fly will always eat the shit. If you tell the fly, “Hey Mr Fly, here is some good tasty honey, come eat it!” and the fly will tell you, “Fuck off, I just want my shit.”
With one exception…
Now this seems like a good joke and an insult if you think you are a fly. But the truth is, in our world, over 90% people are the flies.
You tell them, “Hey, don’t eat deep fried food, they are damaged food that is fully poisonous.” And they will tell you, “Fuck off! If life cannot eat this and eat that, why live?”
You tell them, “Hey, girls don’t think that way, girls don’t want a solution, you just need to listen to her.” And they will tell you, “Fuck off! If she don’t want a solution, why she keep on complaining.”
Their genes, their patterns, are fixed.
I am not trying to insult flies, as flies play a very important role in the world. It is impossible to have 90% bees and 10% flies. As everyone will always ask, “If everyone is rich, who is going to clean the toilet?” Which is why, the ratio between the bees and the flies will always be the same. We will always need more people to clean the toilet than to sun bath on Maldives doing nothing.
But the reason I tell you this story is, I want to ask you, if you have a choice, do you want to be a bee or a fly? If you have a choice…
Because if you don’t choose yourself, the environment will choose it for you…
And if you didn’t really choose before, how do you know if you are a bee or a fly?
It is true that maybe you are really a fly. But what if, WHAT IF you are actually a bee but in your whole life, your parents, your teacher, your friends are telling you that you are a fly?
I know the probability of that is quite low (sorry for the discouragement but that’s the truth I see), but it will be a total waste, for a bee to eat shit instead of honey. Imagine Bill Gates is washing my car right now instead of creating Microsoft and Tony Fernandes is working for JKR instead of AirAsia…
Bees play their role. Flies play their role. They are both important to the environment. If you are a fly, there is no point for you to suck honey because honey won’t taste good to you. If you are a bee, you should let the fly eat the shit as they can do it better than you. It is none of your business.
The question is, “Is it possible that you are a bee doing the fly job?” If after thinking of this you still think shit is more tasty than honey, congratulation! You are doing what you meant to do. Nothing wrong with you. We all have our own destinies. Remember over 90% of us are flies, nothing to be shameful of.
What if … you are not a fly …
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but Baja Hitam!!!
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You started out very good, the middle part is very convincing but the ending is “pitchy”
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Anyway, I can understand 100% what you are trying to put forward here. I have been promoting good eating habit with a combination of enzyme drinks (DIY) for quite a while, you see, most ppl are very excited when they start but a few months down the road they have lost the momentum and get themselves back to the old habits again.
I just have 2 Chinese words for you…… 随缘 .
Extraordinary people do extraordinary things, normal people do normal things, shitty people keep shitting… that’s all.
Do you think you can change the fly to have a bee mindset?
Keep writing!
I really believe you can.
Too many people are born into an environment that program them to be a fly. But they just need to be shown a possibility and ways to be a bee.
You reading a book perhaps tilts your whole life momentum towards being a bee. Others can experience the same thing.
My life was changed by books too. The book that started my journey was a book by Edward de Bono. I couldnt understand half the book when I started reading it. My english really sucks then. But is got me into asking: ‘you can train your brain to think more efficiently?!’. There is no way my family background and mindset would have provided me a path to be a bee. But with the appetite to learn and be open, I’m counting on it to keep me exploring this path.
I have a feeling that there is a possibility of having 90% bee and 10% fly population. It’s a question of the mindset of scarcity vs abundance. Technology can take over the works of flies. But we would need a major shift of awareness to change the majority of the population into the bee mindset (asking ‘why not?’ instead of ‘why me?’).
I hope my life will be fully invested in helping make this shift. I see a talent you have as a catalyst for that also
Thomas, i agree with you. Most of the ppl jus don think they r important, and they are willing to be fly.
Yap, i totally agree with you. Well, some1 hv to clean da toilet. 2/8 law still apply everywhere
We just enjoy to have our honey, they enjoy their shit as well. As long as they don’t complain, i am ok. If not, i will try to amend their habit. Because like wat you have said, WHAT IF, WHAT IF they are bee like us. just no one have told them.
Thank to my mum to cheating me since young by saying im the greatest man. It keeps my dream.
> Thank to my mum to cheating me since young by saying im the greatest man. It keeps my dream.
Very touched. Best mum in the world.
thks Yap, dreaming is the most important skill for young generation. too many parent just killing their children dream by telling they cant do this, cant archive that. And blame why they hv not success @+@
Well you cant blame everything on the parents either. They are having a poor life busy making more money and probably because of that they only want their children to be what they think its good. Thats what happen to me anyway. I dont blame my father since he had a hard life in the childhood comparing to me. The course Im studying probably isnt the one I like or want, but it’s not really that bad (money making) in the future. So I’ll just be my fly and eat my own shit since the Head of Flies will hukum mati me if I dont follow
that is why Vanice, why cant they jus learned that everyone have their own life to take care. They should jus let you fly, doesnt matter u will become fly or able to fly by ur own. Atleast we wont be regret wen we old right? :p just some thought of mine la..
Yeah I know. But well, I cant say anything like that right? He’s old and have heart attack disease. I dont want anything to happen especially before graduate. My current course isnt that bad considering all the factors that I have to deal with if I go with my original plan. =_=” They say old ginger is better, so… guess I will respect at least that much regarding my studies, no other than that
As long as you are living happily no matter you are eating shit or honey. No one guarantee you will be happy after becoming a bee.
Based on the 2/8 ratio, I believes most parents are flies. Thus they enjoy shit and they think they are right thus educate or forcing their offsprings to become a fly in the future because they believe it’s the best for their children. I believes parents intention is good, but most of the time, parents and elder generations like teachers who are flies are the one who should be accountable for the younger generation who live a pathetic life for becoming a new fly because they are the one who keep killing the creativity of the younger generation through out their growing phase.
But at the end of the day, we cannot blame them as well, because after all, all they meant were for your own good. (DESPITE THEY ARE WRONG!) Well, they have the same type of parents as you do as well, just that they are not as open minded or independent thinker as Ah Yap do. They just follow the social norm blindly due to they are conservative people who do not think and never challenge some of the ridiculous social norm.
Conclusion, whether we want to continue to be like our parents and become a fly that eat shit and so as our children who will eat shits as well in the future due to our influences which our family will continue to be a fly and eat shit for perpetual OR we choose to become a bee from now onwards and your family will change for now and the future, it’s lies in your hand and all depends on your choice, NOW.
For those who choose to be a fly, I wish good luck to them.
While for those who choose to be a bee, congratulation, you have awaken from being a blind and brainless followers (most homosapiens are born and equipped with eyes and brain but ironically, they never use it!) and welcome in becoming a true human being, at last!
Everyone is born a genius, but the process of living de-geniuses them.
– R. Buckminster Fuller
u r really funny guy!
i wish i found your blog years ago..
lol
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Ok yap! I do agree with your idea which we should choose instead of be chosen but I would say it would be their destiny to be bee or fly! Why?
you could not just expect people to change in days because the mindset, the behavior, the “principle” already rooted in their soul since they are young! As you said, 90% of people are flies and technically speaking, the young infants will imitate the behavior of the elders; Of course their role model will be the 90% of flies instead of the 10% of bees if they are lucky enough =)
They have been educated, taught, inspired and shaped to be flies! Everyone around them are flies and are eating the shit! Then here comes the another scary phenomenon that these flies will begin playing the game of majority where a lot flies will start denying facts eg. Aiyo! My father smoke until 80 years old also haven die lorr! You see others? also smoke mah!
Why these people could say such silly things although cigarette has been scientifically proven is bad for health!How could they deny the fact just because the majority are still sucking the smoke although they know cigarette is killing? Or just because they’ve seen amounts of “smoking flies” could survive to the age of 80? Yes!! – Just because everyone around me is smoking! so smoking is not really that killing! if it’s really so deadly, everyone ham ka can d la!
So! i think it’s hard for the flies to transform into the bees by just realizing the truth! However, i still agree with there might be some exception where there are some flies have the possibility or consciousness to transform into bees which I label them as mutant fly!
Nevertheless, I’m a fly =) and thx for your article that I think is quite true!
Hi guys,
very good topic to read and reflect ourselves…
I appreciate all of your comments…just think it in positive ways as that is art of life…really like this thread.
when people have that “understanding” whereby many people do not possess ( sth gifted,like talents) and you wish to help others and change people mind for their own good, people wont understand and instead mistreated u, judged u,insult u , prosecute u as bringing false principles. those people are narrow minded and just stay average in their life. (average is not bad though, but they won’t be outstanding)
but this is good in a way ahyap. as u urself mentioned, if everyone is rich, if everyone is clever, if everyone is creative, then there’s no drama & uniqueness. it is norm, our society, that minority are going to suceed while majority being being average.
because those people are comformist, they used to stick to traditions, old way, conventional system and “fixed” path.
if majority people are smart, brave & do not sell their stock while stock prices deteriorate, then people like ahyap and other smart people won’t earn alot.
this world, all people have different personality traits, different level of understanding, wisdom, and thinking. some are intuitive while many are logical.
people always want to see to believe, but ignorant to them, best things dont come out of that way.
ahyap, i believe u will be successful person, not only in wealth, cause i do no think u really love wealth ( u do love money, but ) , u are rich in knowledge, life principles and philosophies.
because of ur good intentions to help others but getting disregard, u’ve burned out and now u swear u wont help others directly and actively, it is a good way to write a blog for those who are WILLING to read it and give us more ideas and path in our life.
but people who do not understand will perceive ur a hypocrite & cocky.
dun worry though, they are minority of people who have same frequency as u.
@wickeng, thanks for your comment.