Soufu ask me to take a look at Steve Pavlina’s blog. My first impression is, “Yucks, who need another motivation blog?”. So I challenged soufu that NO ONE will be reading this blog. From my perspective, people don’t want motivation, people only want quick-fix to problems. People don’t want to diet and exercise to slim down. People like products that can help them to slim down without exercising and without the need to stop eating. People don’t want to learn about investing, but prefer to be told exactly what stock to buy or using a fully-automated trading system…
So I bet with him that this site will not be as popular as Kennysia’s blog. So we check on the Alexa ranking.
Cibai, my first ‘gambling’ in 2007 lost to soufu (Yesterday a ‘chinese feng-shui oracle’ in TV said people who is born in the Monkey year shouldn’t gamble in 2007, seems like he is right. But I still think he is a sin-kar-lan because soufu is also born in the Monkey year. So if Monkey bet with Monkey, who will win?). Steve Pavlina site is ranked the 2,549th most popular site in the internet! While Kennysia is around 21,491th! Losing by 18,000 spots.
[sin-kar-lan: cantonis, people who talk cock like ahyap]
This ‘Steve’ guy immediately get my attention. I read his About Page and here is an interesting excerpt.
… he started over in college and graduated in three semesters with a double-major in Computer Science and Mathematics. Steve has run the L.A. Marathon, trained in martial arts, and maintained a 100% vegan diet. He can juggle, count cards at blackjack, …
[juggle: To keep (two or more objects) in the air at one time by alternately tossing and catching them.]
Now, this man is what I call, people who have the GENETIC. Do you have it? I am not as smart as him, if I am to write my about page, it will go like this
… AhYap started over in college and graduated in NINE semesters, extending one extra semester as he is unable to complete his required credits within 8 semesters. He completed the 1.5km run in school for 8 minutes and 48 seconds, awarded the grade of ‘E’ (most people complete the run below 5 minutes), trained in tae-kwan-do for 1 year but still unable to kick above waist level, and maintained a 80% vegan diet (finally something similar, yeah). He can’t remember his girl friend house phone number, can’t differentiate between stalagmites and stalactites when studying geography, can’t even win noobs in Dota after playing for so many hours … (BTW, soufu also cannot win the noobs, wahahaha)
Do you see? I don’t have the genetic!
But Wait! Don’t pity (可怜，同情）me! People who always like to be pitied will always be a loser. People who like to pity others are usually losers as well.
- You screw up in something, someone (mother, wife, teacher, friend, colleague, dai-yi-ma…) come and pity you and tell you, “Honey, it is ok …” You immediately feel the love and connection. Screwing up doesn’t seems so bad now! Then the next time you screw up again, they come to pity you again… again and again… and you are now trained that whenever you need love and connection, you will subconsciously try to screw up. Don’t agree with me? What if you are successful? People around get jealous. They stay away from you or even talk bad about you. You don’t get the love and connection. So subconsciously you learn that being successful is bad and screwing up is good.
- People like to pity losers and jealous on winners. When they saw losers, they are happy! They feel like their life is not that screw up as somebody else is more screw up then them! They feel significant (重要性）. So they like to pity. If someone is better than them, they feel like a loser (insignificant). They hate to feel like a loser, so they prefer to pity losers instead of praising winners. So subconsciously, people are trained to pity losers and jealous on winners.
- Since people like to pity (to feel significant) and be pitied (to get love and connection), losers always stick together to reaffirm each other. When I screw up, another loser can come to pity me. Both of us are happy. When another loser screw up, I can go and pity him. Both of us are happy.
This is why cibailang says, “We live in a Cibai world!”.
So if you want to be a loser, go pity someone, or enjoy being pitied.